You may have noticed that we have been pretty quiet on the here, social media and newsletters the last few weeks. The reason being is that at the beginning of this month we decided to take some time out. We felt that we haven’t been practicing what we have been preaching and it felt wrong. You know how it goes, your friend says that they are burnt out and you say ‘you need to look after yourself, don’t burn the candle at both ends!’. Well do you listen to your own advice? We may be minimalists when it comes to material possessions, but mentally and the day to day schedules were pretty ridiculous. Not minimalist at all (in our opinion).
Minimalism can mean different things to different people. For us, it means keeping the essentials and the things that bring you joy and eliminating the rest. Whether it be mental, emotional or physical clutter, creating a balanced environment is so important. Now, in saying that, this is what it means to us, we technically have been ‘keeping the essentials and the things that make us happy’ and also not taking on things that didn’t but sometimes just doing what makes you happy and what you feel is important, doesn’t mean that you are living in balance and looking after yourself.
We both work full time, run an online store and write content for this website. We always felt like we could be doing more, but were pretty tired and felt like we had started to neglect ourselves and were too “busy” to have a balanced lifestyle. Don’t get me wrong, we love what we do, but sometimes you need a mental break just to focus on yourself and re-balance where you’re at. It’s a fine line when you want to do it all, but it’s actually not possible if you want to stay healthy, happy and sane. And at this point, you typically have to say no to something to reduce the burden and re-focus yourself.
With the holiday season coming up and everyone going crazy, it seemed like the best and worst time to switch off. Worst because we have an online store and this is the busiest time of the year (even though we are completely against consumerism, but lets face it, if you do buy something for someone else, ideally it’s something that they will use). It is however also the best because we are going against the grain of getting consumed by everyone else’s mad energy!
So we have stepped away from everything besides our full time jobs and are doing the bare minimum to keep the blog and business going but have shifted our energy and attention to self care (she says as she writes this post!).
One thing we realised is that it will never be the right time to do this unless we make the time. We always say, ‘yes when things slow down a little I will get to…’ or ‘just need to get this finished and then I can look after myself’. Those times in life never happen. You need to make them happen or you will feel run down and over-scheduled 99.9% of the time.
‘yes when things slow down a little I will get to…’ or ‘just need to get this finished and then I can look after myself’.
In our case, it hit us like a tonne of bricks. Life will not actually slow down, things will evolve and more time will pass. We have so many things that we would like to do, professionally and personally but many of them overlap as it’s our passion. So unless we made the time now (when we’re feeling it most), or another 1-2-10 years will go by and no definite time would have presented itself for us to take a break and reflect on self care.
I wanted to share this bit of reflection with you to maybe spark something to help you slow down and take that time out for yourself. I also felt the need to share this with you to explain why we have slowed down over the last little bit. We all only have one life, don’t let it go past you. If you need the break or a reshuffle with where your energy is spent, take that time.
Hope you all have a wonderful holiday season and enjoy time with family and friends. Rather than spending money on gifts, share wonderful, memorable experiences with those around you. Hope you’ve all had an amazing 2016 as we did!