Why You’re Struggling To Stay Vegan

Why You’re Struggling To Stay Vegan

Veganism isn’t a switch. It’s a series of choices you make for them to eventually become part of your subconscious. It’s a lifestyle rather than just a habit.

So why do people struggle to stay vegan? Well, there’s more than one answer to this question.

For some people, it happens instantly, but as we have learned over the years, that seems to be the minority. As some of you may know, this is how we became vegan.

But today I wanted to discuss why people take longer to transition and what may be holding them back from making the full leap.

Before I get into it, I want to note that I’m not judging others for their journey. I’m just hoping to help you relate with some of the reasons that may be holding you back. I completely appreciate that everyone’s situation is different and that any progress is progress in the right direction. Let’s all celebrate it.

Here are the reasons that we have found to be the biggest struggles for people.

Doing it for health.

 

With more research coming out every single day about the health benefits of being vegan, no wonder that veganism is on the rise!

We get asked all the time if this is the reason we chose this lifestyle. Generally speaking, health is the easiest way for omnivores to see why someone would choose this lifestyle. It’s a much easier topic for others to relate to, especially if they don’t know what happens behind closed doors in factory farms and the like.

Choosing veganism for health reasons is also a great way to get started. However, it can easily be the culprit for you dropping off. It’s like going to the gym. How many of us are really committed to going 3-4 times a week? Or eating healthy? We all have our slip ups and days that all we want to do is indulge in a pizza.

So if you’re choosing to be vegan for health reasons, maybe it’s worthwhile exploring that a little bit deeper. Add some documentaries to your watch-list like Cowspiracy, Dominion, Unity or even A Plastic Ocean. Read some books, ours is a great start.

When you have a stronger why you make better choices. You make that connection and saying no to animal products becomes easier as it’s not just about you.

On the contrary, if you become vegan with the hopes of becoming healthier but still eating the same types of foods you were before making the transition, you’ll quickly learn that you can still be a junk food vegan. So, stick to a whole foods diet with lots of fresh (organic if possible) produce, and you will then start to see the health benefits of being vegan.

Note: I do acknowledge that certain health conditions make it very difficult/impossible for people to follow a strictly vegan diet. This section is more talking to people that have chosen to eat plant-based because of their health.

Your family is not on board.

 

This is probably the main reason why people can’t stay vegan. Family and food is such a big part of everyone’s lives.

It can be very exhausting physically, and mentally to be “the difficult one” who is always requesting separate meals or having to cook different meals for yourself and then the rest of the family.

This is why many people choose to keep the peace and also not to spend hours in the kitchen every day, decide that it’s just easier to cook the same for everyone. We hear this time and time again.

Some ways to help could be:

  1. Batch cook for yourself and then store in fridge and freezer for the week.
  2. Make meals that can be vegan and then add in whatever else partway through cooking, separating yours first.
  3. Introduce vegan days in your home for the rest of your family to start seeing the benefits of veganism and how tasty the food can really be.
  4. Teach your family how to make their own food. I know that this isn’t an option for some families that have small kids but there’s nothing more empowering than them learning how to cook their own meals.  

It can be a traumatic experience when you have a strong passion for not eating animals, and their by-products to then have to prepare it for others.

Why You’re Struggling To Stay Vegan

The Convenience Trap.

 

Oh yes, the convenience trap. It’s so easy to fall into it.

Sometimes laziness gets the better of us. And before you know it, one poor choice has lead to eating chicken two nights in a row and having a cheese and ham sandwich for lunch.

The best way to combat this is to plan ahead. Think of all the places that offer vegan options for lunch during your lunch break, or pack in advance. Apps like Happy Cow help if you’re stuck for ideas or aren’t familiar with the area. We use it all the time. It saves us having to get hangry 🙂

If you struggle with food in general and are very picky, then ask the cafe or restaurant to make something off the menu. Most places are happy to do it if they get the notice or you request ingredients to be put together that they already have in other dishes.

Again, when you educate yourself more deeply, it will be easier to make the right choices. You won’t look at ‘food’ the same way. You’ll see a live animal next time you look at that steak burger. You’ll see the mother cow being ripped away from a crying baby calf when you look at that milkshake.

No one said that it was easy or pretty, but that’s the unfortunate reality that we live in. Every single time you’re purchasing something, you’re voting with your dollar to change that suffering or keep it going.

Not Knowing Enough.

 

As I discussed above in a few other examples, knowledge is so valuable. In many ways, it creates the strong why behind the interest that sparked this lifestyle, to begin with.

Educate yourself, watch, read, talk to others, connect with like-minded people. It’s becoming more accessible to be vegan every day. More people are choosing this lifestyle and for excellent reasons!  

As the old saying goes “knowledge is power” and the more of it that you have, the reason you choose to be vegan will be for life. You can’t unknow what you’ve been exposed to.

Wrong reasons and expectations.

 

As I mentioned above, any progress is good progress. But if you become vegan because Miley Cyrus is vegan, I’m not sure how strong of a why that is. Yes, you may idealise her and think that she’s great, but again, if you don’t have a more profound reason, it may not stick long term.

Sometimes we also have expectations of what a vegan diet can do for us. You hear of health transformation, athletes performing better on a plant-based diet and well, your cool factor may increase as well.

But everyone’s journey and bodies are different. If you go in with the wrong expectations of what you’ll get out of it, you may be setting yourself up for disappointment.

Why You’re Struggling To Stay Vegan

Struggling with what to cook.

 

For those that don’t like spending time in the kitchen or tend to burn things to a crisp without meaning to, I can completely understand that transitioning your lifestyle to avoid meat, dairy, eggs, and honey would be tough.

You may even enjoy being in the kitchen but have no clue what to cook now. We went through that period, and we ate veggie wraps for lunch for two weeks straight just to get our heads around what foods and ingredients are vegan-friendly.

With so many cookbooks, recipe blogs, new products in mainstream stores, it’s hard to get stuck for ideas. Sure, five or so years ago it would’ve been a different story, but today, information is abundant everywhere you look!

Start slow, introduce new meals when you feel like you have some basics down pat. Try new vegetables or cook ones you’re familiar with in different ways. Try different grains. There’s always so much to experiment with and test out. Your only restriction is how far you’re prepared to take it. If you need some inspiration, you can start here.

Are there any reasons that I missed that you think are important to take note of? Would love to get a positive discussion happening in the comments below.

16 comments… add one
  • Jessie 17/06/2018

    Hi Masa

    Thanks for your email.

    I watched the free screening of Dominion last night and reading your email about not judging people was hard. I don’t want to be judgemental but I think judging others is human nature and anyone who says they don’t judge is fibbing. But I understand what you’re saying and it’s also about the delivery of what you’re saying. If the comments you were reading in that vegan group were really nasty of course I wouldn’t support it, but the reason I’m ranting about this is because of Dominion. I watched that documentary and I hated every single person in the world so much I wanted to lash out and punch a wall. I wanted those people treating those animals like that in the documentary to have barbed wire shoved up their asses and ripped out. I just couldn’t handle it. I watched the whole thing but I wanted to leave so bad. It hurt me so much and even writing this now I’m fighting back tears of heart ache and also anger.

    Also, I was vego for 16 years and went vegan 12 months a go. There’s still room for improvement from me and I have slipped up here and there but I know I will never go back to living a non vegan lifestyle. I’m lucky and haven’t struggled with it much. My biggest challenge has been Cadbury chocolate but I’m over that now. I never crave meat and havent for years. I think of cheese as cow pus and so cannot even eat vegan cheese without being grossed out completely. I hate any white liquid and I never liked yogurt. So I’m lucky and have found it very easy and so enjoyable. I love cooking and sharing food and my recipes and books and most of all I love eating.

    Thanks for everything. Love reading your stuff X

    • Hi Jessie, thanks for sharing. I haven’t personally seen Dominion because I know I’d be watching something that would emotionally break me. I’ve seen Earthlings and that’s why we became vegan, and that’s enough for me. I can totally sympathise and understand your anger and frustration. I felt the same way too, it will pass. Just give yourself some time.

      I think how I look at it is that most people weren’t born vegan and they’re on their own journey. But what we can do is plant seeds. The people that do this harm to the animals, we don’t know their story either. Workers in slaughterhouses have some of the biggest suicide rates of most jobs out there. I know that in the US a lot of the workers are illegal immigrants or people that don’t have too many options in regards to employment. I know that pretty much any job is better than working in a slaughterhouse, but I would try and seek to understand them. But then you have some that are just psychopaths.

      Glad to hear you enjoy our content xx

  • Heather 17/06/2018

    I really like this – it acknowledges the struggles, but offers advice without seeming pushy to try and help you maintain a vegan lifestyle. I was a vegetarian for eleven years and I fell to the second one when I moved in with my husband – he does the cooking and to make it easier I started eating meat so he didn’t have to cook two meals. Then when I was off sick I started researching different veggie recipes and watched several documentaries and now my husband eats 90% vegan too!

    • Glad to hear you enjoyed it Heather and yay on your husband’s progress!! 🙂

  • Jo 18/06/2018

    Hi, Masa..
    I really appreciate your comments. Yes, it can be very difficult to be vegan in this world, and nope, it’s impossible to do it 100% of the time. To your point, car tires are not vegan..and detergent (from what I understand) isn’t vegan, either..and I think a good point to make that hasn’t really been mentioned is that, especially for a new vegan — don’t align yourself with militant vegans. I’ve been on certain vegan Youtube channels, and some of these vegans are so pushy and militant. They shame you if you’re not a street activist, if you consume palm oil, honey, or if you eat Oreos. I honestly don’t get that anal about it. I’m vegan for health and for the animals, but WITHIN REASON. It’s been over a year and yes, I’ve had “slip-ups”..but my slip-ups were eating too much dark chocolate, oily potato chips and junk foods like Oreos (which to militant vegans aren’t acceptable due to the palm oil and bone char used to process the sugar, but again, I don’t take it that far. These are the same people who wouldn’t eat dark chocolate manufactured on the same line as milk, after all). To ME, being vegan is not consuming any animal products, PERIOD..and doing so out of the principle of not wanting to contribute to or support animal suffering. I don’t worry about bone char or palm oil (yet, I try not to eat oil, in general, anyway, as it’s not a whole food). Recently, I had a family occasion and my cousin very graciously and considerately made sure I had something vegan to eat (pasta and broccoli). So while everyone had chicken parm and eggplant parm, clams, etc., plus all sorts of yummy-looking Italian desserts, I ate my broccoli and pasta and had some jelly beans. Well..I discovered afterwards that Jelly Belly’s weren’t vegan because they use insects to color the “beans”. I didn’t have a melt-down about it. I just know for next time to avoid them. But now I have a wedding to go to in a few weeks and I’m upset because my options will be chicken, beef or fish. Hmmph. Despite asking the groom’s parents (my cousin and his wife) whether I’ll have vegan options at this wedding, I was “shut down”. It’s like as soon as you say you can’t eat something, nobody wants to hear it. Well, guess what? I’m going to the wedding, but I’ll be eating a salad if that’s all that’s available. If you’re vegan just for your health, you’re going to “cave”, eventually..but I went vegan for my health and STAY for the animals. It’s the least I can do. xx

    • Thanks for sharing Jo, I totally agree. We make the choice and sometimes we do slip up, but we learn and move on. Others can at times make the vegan lifestyle seem off-putting. Sorry to hear of your experiences with family. If that was me, I would make sure to eat something before the reception, so I wouldn’t go hungry if they won’t support my choices.

  • Madelyn W 18/06/2018

    Thank you for your thoughts on the matter. Something that I’m struggling with is that my family and I are in Germany at the moment and are visiting family and friends during our stay. Its not difficult to avoid meat per say but the dairy. Family and friends we are staying with know my family and I don’t eat meat but I finding it difficult to say and we don’t consume milk, cheese, icecream and eggs. I just don’t want to offend them or be an inconvenience to them. Germany is a country that consumes lots of meat and dairy. A lot. Yesterday we were invited to a friends home. She knew we didn’t eat meat so she made a beautiful salad and tortillini with cheese. She was so kind to accommodate us and not serve meat. I wasn’t about to tell her “ sorry we don’t eat cheese either.” It’s a hard balance when you’re being hosted by friends and family…I don’t want to put them out or seem too picky and ungrateful. What are you thoughts on the matter?

    • I can totally understand where you’re coming from. However, I always let people know if I can that we are vegan. Having a European background myself, when we travelled through Croatia and Slovenia, I told everyone that had us over for a meal that we were vegan. They would just confirm what it was that we didn’t eat and then make something appropriate. I would also always offer to bring something along as well or tell them not to worry making us something. The only time that it was a little awkward was when my cousin didn’t tell my uncle and auntie we were vegan before we came over to visit (this was in Vancouver and I didn’t really know them). We didn’t realise that they would serve food and I could have saved my auntie a whole day in the kitchen. We learned from that lesson and there were no problems moving forward. We did still manage to eat some pasta with some roasted vegetables.

      I think that you shouldn’t feel bad for standing up for your own values. Most people are happy to accommodate and will learn something new themselves as well. Out of all trips that we did visiting family and friends, my grandma was the only one that was upset, because she expresses love through food and was a little stuck on what to cook (she eats a lot of meat and seafood herself). In the end, though, she cooked some great vegan meals for me and I also did quite a bit of cooking while I stayed with her. I think at the end of the day if they knew the truth (that you’re vegan), they would feel bad for serving you dairy. As my grandmother, a lot of people show love through food and if you are eating something just to accommodate them, they wouldn’t be happy if they knew that. Be true to yourself.

  • Dominic 18/06/2018

    Thanks for the article Masa.
    One big reason I decided to become vegan because of the gross inefficiency of meat production. It takes so much water and feed, which also takes water to produce. And then the land required for animals, plus the land required to grow crops is too much for our planet to handle.

    One exception I do make to veganism is if there is leftover non-vegan food at work or if I see non-vegan food that is soon to be thrown out I will consume it to prevent waste, which to me is the greatest evil we can do to our food. I just think of all the resources that went into that food and to throw it out adds insult to injury. What do you think about consuming non-vegan food to prevent it from being thrown away?

    • I can totally understand where you’re coming from, but personally, I couldn’t bring myself to do it. I would rather give it to someone else that wasn’t vegan to eat it or put it in the compost. If the food is still packaged I would donate it to the homeless.

  • Liz 19/06/2018

    Thanks for these lovely words. This might be a strange question, but can you share the title the magazine/book that’s displayed in the first photo (with the Splendor in the Grass article)? It looks beautiful!

    • Not a strange question at all Liz! I would if I knew 🙁 Sorry, it’s just a free stock image I got for the post.

  • Joanna 24/06/2018

    I fall into the” I don’t know what to eat category”. I’m not vegan but I eat mostly plants. I have a family that eats everything else.
    Please point me in the direction of very simple plant meals with little fuss.

  • Elizabeth 09/08/2018

    Thank you for this. I love your style—so clear, and your compassion (both of yours!) comes across so clearly.

    • Thank you so much for your kind words, Elizabeth. It means a lot to us! Thanks for taking the time out to read our blog.

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